Monday Morning Meanderings – A philosophical look on modern life

Is this what life is? Is this what we are here for? A few clicks here and there. Opening screens, closing screens. Thinking, deciding, delegating, taking ownership. Reading emails, replying to them. Sending some more emails and waiting for their replies. Eight hours per day – spent. Eight hours per day – gone from our lives.  

But this is what makes money. Money that pays the bills. Enhances my quality of life. Keeps me and my family happy and secure. I can buy stuff. Buy books and read them. I can explore fascinating places with my family. I can even help people with the same money. Poor people. Unhealthy people. I can support causes. I can build Masjids. I can buy shops. Start my own business. Give more jobs. Make more money.

But then what is money? A piece of paper. The entire world economy is built on this paper. Every country owes money to another country. Where is the value of money? Who decides which currency, which piece of paper, is stronger than the other? All of it is just speculation. We just assign a number and call it the value of the currency of that country. But if that country goes into war, the ‘value’ of that currency starts falling. But who decides by how much? The country with all of its resources is still there.

But why should I bother about the money? The paper. I didn’t build this paper economy? I don’t manage it. If I have enough of these pieces of paper, I will be safe. My family will be safe. If I, or my creator, keep me out of harm’s way, what do I care about the countries that go into war, or run into economic recessions? I am good and I am fine. Before, people used to work for rice and flour. Now we work for these pieces of paper. What is the big deal then? And when the time comes, when the powers that be decide to pull the plug, I will figure things out then. I will carry my skills to another company, another country. If Allah wills, I will survive. And if HE doesn’t, then who can fight HIS will?

But what if Allah wants me to do something about it? What if Allah is not happy with me just sitting and ranting and writing a blog about it?

This world is temporary. Why should I worry so much about a thing that is temporary? As long as I fulfill my obligations towards Allah, shouldn’t I be fine? Man was given limited control of this world by Allah, and man is crazy. Man will create problem after problem. And then take credit for solving those problems that he created in the first place. When the plug is pulled and the world ends, then we will realize that this was all temporary. This was all, not real. Those who had accepted the temporality of this world would survive and would be happy. And those who had thought that this world was everything. Would suffer. Heavily.



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Fighting With Writing 

Sometimes words are desperate to come out of my brain. They are protesting inside and shouting at me that they will not rest till they are on paper. And sometimes, like now, there is nothing. Silence. Nata. Zero.  

It is in this state that I am not writing but fighting. I struggle to find the sweet spot where ideas are translated into words, which string together to form sentences that combine into paragraphs. But in ‘Fighting with Writing’ that does not happen. Either the ideas or the words or both refuse to come out. Refusing like a stubborn child who wants ice cream.  

This whole ‘Fighting With Writing’ thing makes me wonder, ‘Am I actually the one who is writing?’ When the words are coming ‘automatically’ is it me who is putting the words on paper or am I just a tool through which someone else’s stories, ideas, and words are oozing out?  

When I am writing, almost automatically, I find myself doing fewer look-ups, less editing, and even fewer corrections. The whole piece just comes out and settles itself nicely on paper. Like when I wrote ‘Along Came A Virus’. The idea came to my mind when I was tired, had called it a day, and was on my bed hoping to sleep. But the eventual blog had other ideas. The words started shouting in my head, refusing to let me sleep. So grudgingly I came and sat on my computer and started typing. In just a few hours it was done. Posted and even published. It is in this state that probably the best of my work comes out. (Okay I know my best is not even good enough, but I am saying best of ‘my’ work, so the bar is set pretty low 😊 ) 

This fighting sometimes turns pretty violent, wherein, I am prepared to close the screen, toss the pen, and sometimes even delete my blog and everything I have ever written. ‘Oh how light would I feel if I did it’, I tell myself. So how to win the fight and write something of value. Something that at least I would like to read. Well all problems come our way for us to find a solution and in the process, become wiser. And not everything is in the books or YouTube videos. Sometimes we have to learn by experience.  

So I summon the answers from the vast spaces in my mind (which are mostly empty, dull, and boring), and I come up with these points. These would become a solemn pledge, that I promise to follow whenever I am ‘Fighting With Writing’. 

Write Anyways  

Open a blank page and just write. It can be a journal entry where I write manually or an empty Word document. Just open it and pour whatever is in my head.  

Follow a schedule 

Write after Asr prayers for one hour. When the time comes, no matter what I feel, I will write. It can be garbage. It can be intense feelings. It can be curse words or life-changing philosophy. But it would be words connected into a sentence. And sentences connected into paragraphs.  

I am not an impostor 

When my mind tells me that I am an impostor or who am I to tell the world what is good and what is bad and how to live their lives? My reply would be. ‘I am nobody’. And I am not telling the world what to do, rather, I am telling myself what to do. If anything, it is a cry for help.  

The guitar sobs 
The violin weeps 
I shout 
And the world sleeps 

Creativity has cycles 

Creativity might ebb and flow. It might peak and plummet. I shall embrace the cycles. Till the time comes when the words just burst out of me.  

Write I shall 

Write I shall, to calm my nerves. To find a solution. To evade boredom. To make the most out of my time. Write I shall and I shall keep on writing.  

In the end, I get some encouragement when I recall that this fighting with writing feeling, was also faced by a very accomplished writer whom I follow with dedication. The same doubt that my work is so bad that I should destroy it, was also faced by him. His solution was to ‘set a time for writing, prepare the pen, open the blank page, and sit. If nothing is coming it does not matter, just keep sitting till the writing time is over. I guess that is where my unimaginative mind came up with the pledges that I wrote above.  

The accomplished writer was Mufti Taqi Usmani Sahab, whose works I have enjoyed since I was a teenager, and I was surprised that he can also be a victim of ‘Fighting With Writing’. But apparently he was.   

So here I am signing off with a pledge to follow my pledge. Till next time. Chow.  



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Who Wants To Be A Millionaire

Lately, I have been thinking whether someone can become a millionaire if he follows a template. A template that is advertised in hundreds of articles and YouTube videos. Many books have been written on this topic as well. All of them ‘promise’ to make you a ‘millionaire’. But I guess the million-dollar question (no pun intended) is whether they actually work or not.

The recipe for becoming a millionaire has many ingredients. Like being at the right place at the right time with the right skill set. Persistence and hard work are also quoted as necessary. These ingredients are either purely based on luck or need a massive amount of willpower to pursue.

For me, however, the most important ingredient to the ‘Becoming a Millionaire’ recipe is ‘Risk Appetite’ which almost no one talks about.  

Most of the existing millionaires who promise that they started their business from zero are mostly lying. They didn’t start from zero. They had good support from their family. And did not face the risk of famine or losing shelter if their idea didn’t materialize. Their risk appetite, in other words, was pretty high.

The few who did start from zero were already on the streets. Things were so bad for them that they could only go up. The ingredients of hard work, being at the right place at the right time with the right skills, being persistent, etc all worked for them. They had nothing to lose. But even for these rags-to-riches cases, the success rate is not very cherishable. Millions (again no pun intended) worldwide, fell through the cracks. Things just didn’t work out for them and they stayed in rags and way below the poverty line.  

The problem comes for the majority of people (like me) who fall in the middle class of society. They neither have the cushion to protect their fall nor are hardened by a very tough life. They are used to comfort and a bit of luxury. People belonging to the middle class know that if they lose a few paychecks they are probably going to land on hard ground. Their families cannot support them forever. All they can do is enter a cycle of school > college > university > job/small business > marriage > kids > retirement. And then their kids start the same cycle. In the first half of the cycle i.e. school > college > university, the kids are helped by their parents, and in the post-retirement phase, the parents are helped by the kids. Or, the parents, if they had a long and prosperous career and were a bit wise with their spending and savings would have developed a safety net which includes a home and some savings to take them through the final days of their life.  

This cycle is so constrained that hardly anyone can break out of it. Thus any amount of ‘self-help’ or ‘motivation’ to become a millionaire cannot break this cycle. Each generation of a family has to have long and prosperous careers for at least 3 generations to break the middle-class barriers and enter into the elite class. The class where safety cushions are available for their children to take risks and work on their ideas. But before the barrier can be broken if a family loses a skilled bread earner, they would face the potential risk of going below the poverty line.  

So it is not the lack of persistence, hard work, ideas, skills, etc that prevent us from entering the millionaire club. It is rather our risk appetite, which is very low, that prevents us from breaking into the millionaire club. Maybe in a more people-friendly government that protects the middle class through free education for kids, affordable housing, health care, etc more and more middle-class families can take the risk, but I don’t see that happening any time soon.

So my life has entered a phase, where content promising me ‘millions’, does not hold any attraction anymore. I do not find myself participating in the race of ‘Who Wants To Be A Millionaire’. The formula for me is to develop gratitude for all that Allah has given to me, work hard, develop enough skills, and balance my income & expenses to have enough savings. I am not complaining. Alhamdulillah the formula has worked well for me and has given me more than I deserved and it would be something that I would be teaching my kids.  



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How To Manage Your Finances Without Stress

You cannot control your income, but you can control your expenses. This live-within-your-means is the best financial advice you will ever receive. And one that will save you from many financial problems and overall stress in the future. In this blog, I give some general tips around this one piece of advice.  

Make Your Monthly and Annual Budgets 

A budget is a plan. You need to start by planning how you will spend your money in the next month. You cannot manage something that is not written down. So write down your plan. I recommend writing your monthly and annual budgets in Excel since it does all the needed calculations and groupings.  

Start by writing your income that you expect to receive next month. Income should be written with a positive sign, and expenses should be written with a negative sign. The expenses can go in broad categories like Rent, Utility Bills, Education, Grocery, Eating Out, Misc, Savings, Installments, etc.  

Once done, a quick summation of this entire column will reveal whether overall, you are in the positive or the negative for the month. Positive is good as it means that your income is more than your collective expenses. And negative is bad because it means that your expenses are more than your income.  

If you are in the positive then a broad grouping of expenses will be fine but if you are in the negative or too close to being in the negative then more detailed categories would be needed e.g. Utility Bills can be broken into Gas, Electricity, Phone etc. 

Once you have written the budget in a single column for the entire month, copy/paste the column to have the budget for the remaining 12 months. Now you have a single column for each month with the same heads for income and expenses. Add/Edit some expenses/income which is quarterly or annual e.g. Bonus, Quarterly School Fees, etc. E.g. if School Fees are expected in March, then they should be added in March.  

Now the budget for the entire year is in front of you. Again, a simple summation (but this time for the entire year) would reveal whether you are in the positive or negative for the entire year. You would also be able to see which of the months are going to be heavy and you might be going in the negative in those months.  

If annually you are in the positive but in some months due to quarterly expenses you fall in the negative then mark those months and make a plan for them. If you are in the negative both on a month-on-month basis and annual then you would need some serious adjustments.

Record Your Expenses As They Happen 

In the Excel file create a separate sheet to record the expenses as they happen during the month. For each expense make sure to mention the ‘Expense Category’ which should be linked to the name of the expense in your monthly/annual budget sheet. This linking of the expenses with your budget will allow you to improve your budget planning.   

If you are in the negative 

If you are in the negative, meaning your expenses are greater than your income, then you are in the red which means that you would need to make some serious adjustments. The goal is to make your expenses less than your income. Remember, that reducing your expenses is much easier than increasing your income. Depending upon how serious the situation is you might need to seriously think about lifestyle changes and/or having difficult conversations with those around you. Some expenses need to be reduced and some need to be dropped altogether. Take your family and your kids in confidence and set the right expectations for them about money and expenses. You would find this conversation difficult initially but very liberating once you have had it.  

Cutting your expenses does not mean that you should not try to increase your income. It is always good to have multiple income streams or get a salary increment or bonus etc. But again, that is hardly under your control. You cannot as easily increase your income as you can decrease your expenses. So focus more on cutting down your expenses.  

Also while multiple income streams might be a good idea it means more work and effort, which may have a negative impact on your health and family life.  

Similarly avoid going into needless investments like buying property or paying installments for a bigger car, if that is going to take you into the negative OR bring your expenses close to your income. As a rule of thumb you should have at least 6 months of your monthly expenses before you start thinking about investments. 

In conclusion under no circumstances allow your expenses to pass your income. Have a healthy gap between your income and expenses since you would need to account for inflation and other unforeseen expenses. Also the closer your expenses start moving towards your income, the more needless mental strain you are inviting onto yourself.  

Delegate The Expense Heads 

If the monthly/annual budgeting and expense recording exercise sounds like too much work for you, then you can always delegate the expense heads amongst your family. E.g. Grocery and Domestic Expenses go to your wife. Tuition Fees, Transport, and Pocket Money go to your children. Etc.  

Delegation would not only free up your mind but also make your children more responsible. Task them on preparing the budget for their expense head, negotiating it with you, and then recording the expenses. If the kids are responsible enough you can even give the entire budgeted amount at the beginning of the month.  

Think Twice about Fixed Expenses 

Fixed Expenses do not change over the period. E.g. Rent, School Fees, etc are fixed expenses. Think twice before introducing a fixed expense in your budget. Because there is no way you would be able to control or reduce this expense for the month or year.  This includes car installments, property investments, etc. No matter what you do, you cannot get out of your Fixed Expenses.  

Include Sadqa as your Budget Expense 

Include Sadqa (Charity) as an expense in your budget sheet. If you are in the negative reduce your other expenses to make way for it. If you are just in the positive, then add a very small amount but do add it. And if you are substantially in the positive then allocate a percentage of your total income as Charity.  

A good way to decide on the amount or percentage that you would disperse monthly as Sadqa is to see which number bothers you just a little. E.g. if you earn 5,000 dollars a month, ask yourself whether 5 dollars a month as Sadqa bothers you or not. If not, start increasing it till you reach an amount that starts bothering you a little. Suppose that amount is 100 dollars which is 2% of your income. Reduce that by just a little e.g. 90 or 95 and start giving it as Charity every month.  

Over the months you would find that you are feeling okay about the 95 dollars and it is not bothering you anymore. Time to increase that amount by just a little that it starts to bother you. 😊 If you still have a healthy gap between your income and expense start increasing the amount till the point that it starts to just bother you.  

Start dispersing Sadqa at the beginning of the month. If you do not support a charitable cause where you can send the entire amount at the beginning of the month, then just keep the amount separately and be on the lookout for any worthy causes during the month and disperse the amount immediately when you come across it. 

Having a planned/budgeted amount, even if it is as little as 1 or 5 dollars would put you on the path of availing the numerous benefits of charity, which I would discuss in another blog.

Include Savings as your Budgeted Expense 

Another important expense that is not an expense but something you need to plan is your ‘Savings’ or ‘Investments’. Initially, your savings target should be to save as much as 6 months of your most important expenses. Once that ‘Savings’ amount is available then start to reserve an amount that you invest in long-term assets. Investment is a topic that I would probably cover in another blog but over here just consider reviewing how much amount you can reserve in the ‘Investments’ expense category.  

One reason that I am calling ‘Investment’ as an ‘Expense’ is because you should not be thinking about pulling your money out of your investments, which means that the amount reserved for investment should be forgotten for the next 3-5 years.  

Envelopes 

This is an age-old expense/budget management exercise. And I am sure most of you are already aware of it. The idea is to divide your income in separate envelopes corresponding with each expense head that you have defined in your budget.  

If making envelopes is too old a practice for you, then check with your bank whether they have something called virtual accounts or ‘Saving Plans’. This allows you to create linked accounts with your main account and at the start of the month either automatically or manually you can move your income into these accounts. So whatever remains in your main account is so low that you stop having any ideas that might lead you towards impulse buying.  

Stay away from impulse buying.  

A fat bank balance might provoke you to buy things that you don’t need. If you are moving your income into different accounts and investments, in the end, you might not have enough money remaining in your account to give you funny ideas about changing your mobile phone or buying a new accessory for your car.  

Whenever you need to buy something ask the questions ‘Do I actually need this?’ or ‘Do I have something similar’, ‘How is it going to help me?’. This would put a block between you and the salesman throwing his pitches. Think before you buy! 

Conclusion 

This might not be an exhaustive list of advice that covers everything. I do realize that everyone has their own unique circumstances and lifestyles. But these tips have helped me a lot over the years. Feel free to share any ideas and suggestions in the comments section.  



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Khushoo and Khuzu

Khushu and Khuzu are the essential states during Salah/Namaz. Some scholars have even called it obligatory. However, the most common view that most scholars have taken is that the benefits of Salah will start if it is offered with Khushu and Khuzu.

Khushu means to be in a state where your heart and mind are empty of all thoughts and you are fully focused on what you are reading in Salah. And Khuzu is a state in which the body stays still and avoids any type of extra motion e.g. scratching, yawning, flinching, or moving needlessly.

A Salah offered with Khushu and Khuzu has many benefits. The benefits can be felt more than they can be explained.

Khushu and Khuzu can be obtained in many different ways. Khuzu, the stillness of the body can be easily achieved by trying and making an effort.

Khushu, however, requires more inner work. Khushu that is the emptying of mind and heart from all thoughts, can be achieved by

  1. Moving your mind from the thoughts that are generated in your mind to the words that you or the Imam are reciting.
  2. Memorizing new Surahs or portions of Surahs with meaning and reciting them during Salah.
  3. Telling yourself that Allah is much bigger than the thoughts being generated in your mind.
  4. Imagine that you are meeting Allah or that one day you will meet Allah.

Salah is the connection between us and Allah and the stronger that connection is, the more beneficial it would be for us. If we want to realize The Pakistan Dream we need to make an effort to offer Daily Salah with Khushu and Khuzu.



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